How to handle your kids temper tantrums

Before we learn how to handle your kids temper tantrums, it is compulsory that we should know about what is the exact meaning of temper tantrums. A temper tantrum is a sudden, unplanned display of anger during which children often cry, yell, and swing their arms and legs badly though it does not remain for long usually last 30 seconds to 2 minutes but very difficult to control. It is not just mere act of drawing attention but lots more than that. Temper tantrums occur between the ages of one to five years but anyone can have a tantrum-even an adult. Sometimes temper tantrums become so strong that child start kicking, hitting and even hold their breath.

Why do children have temper tantrums?
Tantrum is a normal and very common response when your child does not want what he exactly need or when you restrict him from gaining independence or learning a skill. Some kids can show temper tantrums on regular basis whereas others have them rarely. Temper tantrums may occur without warning, you just have to keep check on situations when your child get them more and plan accordingly. For example some child shows tantrums during their meal or sleeping time. Temper tantrums depends on many factors like child age, his or her stress level, any medical or emotional problem and sometimes age of child. Kids cannot show their frustration and anger in other ways so they develop tantrums.  Sometimes parents' behavior also matters if parents react too strongly to poor behavior or give in to the child's demands children show temper tantrums.

How do deal with temper tantrums?
Usually many parents find it difficult to deal with temper tantrums because they find their child behavior annoying and embarrassing. But as being parent we always want to help our kids so we try lot to make them comfortable so here are some ways which can help you to deal with kids temper tantrums.

• The best deal to with tantrums is just to ignore it whenever possible though it is hard to do but many studies show that paying any attention whether negative or positive results in an increase in that behavior. So it is good not to pay any attention or even a comment on what they're doing. When your kid comes out from his or her tantrums then you can talk.

• Do not be straight forward with them or put your rules and regulation on them. Give them control over little things by giving those minor choices like "Do you want to play before or after completing homework?" instead if you asked them to do their homework now you will get straightforward no. Give them some space to express themselves and regain self-control.

• Distract them; yes kids have very short attention so take advantage of this only. For example you are going into market and you know that your kid will demand each and everything he saw in the market then the best way to take his or favorite toys, books or sweets with you so that you can create a diversion and keep your kids engaged and interested in something else so he forgets about the meltdown he was just having.

• Try to find out what really frustrating your kid. Sometimes your kid wants to say something but we do not understand which make them frustrated and they show temper tantrums. To get overcome from this situation it is better to teach them some common words or signs which help them to convey their message effectively. You can also display some pictures like a cartoon eating food or drinking water, watching television or cartoon so that if they cannot speak then they can point out their favorite activity. Try to learn your kid body language which is the best way to understand them   

• When you child show temper tantrums in public then just a tight hug can make your kid feel secure and they came to know that you care about them. It is always said that a gesture can say more than the words.  

• Usually kids frustrated most when they are hungry or feeling tired. If your child also have tendency to show temper tantrums over these two reasons then it is better to fix their eating and sleeping time. Try to give them food on time preferably vegetarian food will be good to control tantrums similarly let them sleep or take a short nap when they feel tired.

• Reward them for their good behavior and controlling their feelings. It is not necessary that you offer them any gift only a word of appreciation will encourage them to keep their behavior for long. 

• Keep your calm remember they are kids so it’s not good to argue with the child. Stay calm and speak with them politely. Try to make them comfortable first and then start your conversation. Try to teach them that there are many other better ways through which they can convey their message.

It is always good to talk with your kids in their early ages. Try to understand them and their needs, learn their body language and give them to chance to convey their message properly. But if after your all efforts, you are not able to control the situation or if the frequency of tantrums start increasing day by day in term of intensity, or duration then you must consult your child’s doctor.